Relationships seem so hard for most of the people but that’s not true. It’s not relationships that are difficult instead it’s the people involved in the relationships that make them challenging.
You can make your relationship better by doing two simple things:
1. Requiring more of yourself
2. Requiring more from your partner
Nowadays many people are lazy. They think that relationships should be just magically running smoothly like a well-oiled machine. But that doesn’t happen in real life without an effort to make it happen. Relationships take a lot of effort to make them healthy and happy. If you follow these tips, you will be pleasantly surprised by how happy you become.
These relationship advices for women can be used every day to make that happen:
1. Have your own life
- 1 1. Have your own life
- 2 2. Don’t be needy
- 3 3. Make sure you connect physically, emotionally, and mentally
- 4 4. Don’t chase him
- 5 5. Love yourself
- 6 6. Take care of yourself
- 7 7. Don’t be a people pleaser
- 8 8. Speak your mind
- 9 9. Don’t avoid problems
- 10 10. Make time for your partner
- 11 11. Demand respect
- 12 12. Strive for equal effort
- 13 13. Talk about gender roles
- 14 14. Be a good listener
- 15 15. Show empathy
- 16 16. Be accepting of differences
- 17 17. Don’t settle
- 18 18. Don’t try to change him
- 19 19. Teach him how to treat you
- 20 20. Become the person you want to attract
- 21 21. Don’t be afraid to be alone if necessary
- 22 22. Show appreciation
- 23 23. NEVER tolerate any kind of abuse
- 24 24. Don’t be jealous or possessive
- 25 25. Don’t be bitchy
You may be blindly in love with each other but that doesn’t mean that the rest of your life should stop.
Don’t abandon your friends for him. Don’t take up golf and give up your massages if you don’t want to.
Have your independence and an identity of your own. If you don’t give time for yourself, things will get boring and routine in the relationship.
2. Don’t be needy
Being needy and chasing can go hand-in-hand. If you feel like seen him all the time, text him and basically think the world resolves around him, well, you’re being needy.
Needy behavior is suffocating for people, especially men. You think these behaviors will help you hold on to him, but it has the opposite effect – it pushes him away.
3. Make sure you connect physically, emotionally, and mentally
Easier said than done, but these three things are crucially important.
If you’re just physically connected, but you don’t connect emotionally or mentally, then you won’t make it for the long haul.
Or maybe you connect mentally, but your intimacy is just “meh.” The relationship may be doomed.
You have to have strong bonds in all areas of your relationship, so make sure you keep an eye on that from the very beginning.
4. Don’t chase him
Unfortunately, many women do this a lot. And you might not even know you’re doing it. Chasing is where you keep calling him 100 times a day. Or, it could be more subtle, like you’re the only initiating contact all the time (meaning that you are more interested than he is).
Chasing is a turn-off for men. Let him chase you.
5. Love yourself
So many women later complain that they either can’t find the right partner or that they always attract jerks who don’t treat them right.
Well, it’s probably because you don’t love yourself enough. You can only attract the level of love that you feel right for yourself.
So, look at yourself and all your good qualities and start to love yourself exactly for who you are.
6. Take care of yourself
You need to love yourself by taking care of yourself which means trying to stay healthy, get enough sleep, go get massages, escape to a bubble bath or maybe a girls’ night out.
You need to feed your soul in different ways outside of your relationship as well. Or else you won’t have anything left to give.
7. Don’t be a people pleaser
Many women mistakenly think that if they please other people, then they will automatically love them. This couldn’t be farther from the truth!
A lot of people will take advantage of you if you give too much of yourself. Instead, you should strive for a healthy balance of being selfless and selfish.
Please your partner and in return, make sure they please you too. Relationships are a two-way street.
8. Speak your mind
When it says “speak your mind,” it means doing it gently and calmly. Don’t let your negative (or positive) emotions suppress. Let them out.
Talk to your partner about any problems you are having. Try to see yourself as a team and solve the problems together. You deserve respect and to have your voice heard.
9. Don’t avoid problems
No one really likes conflict. There may be some people who do but generally, most people don’t.
So, what happens a lot of the time is they go into avoidance mode. This does not work.
If you avoid problems for a long period, well, they are just going to pile up. And then one day you’ll wake up 25 years later and never be able to sort through them all because they’ve been accumulating too long.
10. Make time for your partner
I know I said to have your own life and some independence, but on the flip side, you can’t spend too much time alone (or with other people) because then the relationship could die.
Relationships need attention. You can make it happen by going on regular date nights and having deep conversations to keep your connection strong.
11. Demand respect
When it says to demand respect, it doesn’t mean stomping your foot down and demanding in a diva kind of way. Its that you need to believe that you deserve to be treated with respect at all times – everyone does.
But here’s the kicker – in order to get respect, you need to give respect. By being respectful, you receive kind treatment in return.
12. Strive for equal effort
Both parties need to put in 100% effort every day to keep the relationship stronger which is equal by both sides.
If it gets out of balance, you need to have a conversation about that so you can get back on track.
13. Talk about gender roles
Over the last few decades, gender roles have become blurred. The days when everyone automatically expects the man to be the breadwinner and the woman to stay home and raise the kids are now gone.
These days, conversations are done within the two and their roles are decided.
14. Be a good listener
We think that women are good listeners and men are bad listeners. This isn’t true.
Men and women just listen in different ways. Women listen to have a conversation with another person and men listen to solve a problem.
But we all deserve to have someone listen to us. So, don’t forget that your partner needs that too.
15. Show empathy
Relationships should not be “me vs. you.” It should be “us” as a team. You cannot constantly consider your perspective about anything.
You may or may not be right, but perception is reality. If your partner sees it differently, try to understand. Show him empathy, and then most likely he’ll show it to you in return.
16. Be accepting of differences
No one is 100% alike. Even identical twins aren’t exactly the same.
If you have too many expectations of his behavior that are being violated, maybe you should just accept the differences.
And if there are too many differences that you can’t tolerate, then maybe he’s not the person for you.
Oh, and don’t forget, he should accept your differences too.
17. Don’t settle
There are way too many people in the world who fear to be alone. It’s probably because they don’t love themselves enough to hold out for what they deserve. Instead, they settle for a person who is good enough for that moment, where they find themselves miserable in a short amount of time.
Hold out for “Mr. Right” because you will never find “Mr. Perfect,” but you shouldn’t settle either.
18. Don’t try to change him
Women always try to change their man.
Take this important piece of advice – if you don’t like how he is RIGHT NOW, without any changes, then you shouldn’t be with him. Period. Because you can’t change him anyway. It just won’t work.
19. Teach him how to treat you
The behavior you allow from another person is the behavior that will persist.
So, for instance, if early in the relationship he starts yelling at you when he’s angry, you need to correct him by gently saying, “I don’t’ appreciate you yelling at me. I deserve to be spoken to with respect. So, until you do that, I won’t engage in this conversation.”
If you don’t, it’ll only get worse.
20. Become the person you want to attract
If you don’t love and respect your self, then you will most probably attract someone else who won’t love and respect you either. It all starts with self-love.
You can’t metaphorically beat up on yourself and expect others to treat you like a queen. Trust me, people pick up on this stuff.
Once you love and respect yourself, then you will get the kind of relationship that you want.
21. Don’t be afraid to be alone if necessary
There’s nothing wrong with being alone! In fact, it can be quite liberating.
You don’t have to compromise with anyone. You can do whatever you want to do when you want to do it. There is no one to answer to. You can get to know yourself better and work on being a better person.
So, if you’re not happy in a relationship, then try being alone for a while. It might be a lot better.
22. Show appreciation
Everyone wants to be appreciated by their partner, so what makes you think your man is any different?
Even if he does little things like put dishes in the dishwasher…thank him for it. Thank him for everything and anything he does for you, and then it’ll be more likely that he’ll want to keep doing that in the future to keep you happy.
And don’t forget that he should appreciate you too.
23. NEVER tolerate any kind of abuse
Abuse isn’t just about having him hit you or beat you up. Abuse comes in all forms such as in mental and emotional forms.
While physical injuries can heal, the mental and emotional wounds are much more difficult to heal.
So, don’t tolerate it if he tries to belittle you, degrade you, or gaslight you. That’s a total deal-breaker.
24. Don’t be jealous or possessive
It’s understandable that we don’t want to share our man. However, there is a fine line between wanting to keep him for yourself and being overly jealous and possessive. These qualities are smothering and usually pushes men way.
Instead, try to be more secure with yourself, so you don’t worry about losing him. And even if you do, you need to know that you’ll be okay anyway.
25. Don’t be bitchy
It’s easy to be bitchy and moody. But does anyone really want to be around a person like that? I know I don’t.
Constantly spewing negativity at your man will make him want to avoid you.
Be kind and loving. Stop the bitchiness and ramp up the respect instead.
Now you have it – everything you need to know to have a quality relationship. The list might seem daunting, but it’s not. It just takes practice.
However, you will need to constantly keep these in mind. But once you do, you’ll find yourself living happily ever after.
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